• they’re not quite wired the same way. that can be awkward cos we are not always on the same wavelength.
  • try to think a wee bit before i speak in case it offends or seems silly to them.
  • i also try not to talk about my things that i’m into – like when i quote scenes from programmes, cos not all people will enjoy them.
  • always try to read their signs, they kinda make this face and you can tell that they are maybe not really interested.
  • in a group i never try to start a conversation – i listen a bit, and see if its interesting and then i start joining in. But i join in with the same topic. That’s safer than starting a topic.
  • you have to learn that people sometimes shout at you maybe at football match and they dont mean they hate me, they just want me to try a bit harder.
  • its really difficult to learn the difference in somebody laughing at you and somebody laughing with you. That takes a long time.
  • another tricky one is when someone is making a face that doesnt match what they are saying…like if they are being sarcastic.
  • sometimes people can be confusing by like putting two emotions on their face at the same time…i try to think what has happened in the situation and see what face would be more believable.
  • if you have issues with smells like i do , its difficult not to react when people have strange smelling hair and bad breathe and things.
  • aspergers people always tell the truth but they learn how not to make it offend,
  • but peer pressure is hard when other people want you you to say or do something that you know isn’t right. That one is so hard because you want to say you shouldn’t do it but you want them to like me. Its hard not ro show i am uncomfortable, so i try just to say no and walk away.
  • when people say idioms its confusing  – like shitting the brick – it makes no sense i kinda have to figure it out first then i can say it too.
  • the older i get the more i learn how to understand people and what they mean
  • when people get to know me they don’t put me in awkard situations they just get used to me:)

by Fionn

It is a confusing getting to know an autistic child in a classroom, and many will never really understand. Yet our one little autistic child has to learn how to understand everyone non-autistic, the common ground they have, the common behaviour codes they understand, the rules , unwritten normal subtles that the world seems to challenge our autistic children with… they simply weren’t PROGRAMMED with that “module”. What an enormous learning task we expect them to cope with EVERYDAY….and the learning NEVER stops…when they meet a new situation – whatever the age – there is a learning…. Helen