i couldn’t make up my mind what blog to write today, and then i started to do something that drives mother crazy – so i decided to blog about my most annoying habits.
- i chew my clothes. i used to do it more when i was younger, but i still do it now. i do it when i’m nervous. when i was in primary school i used to bite the cuffs of my sweatshirts or sometimes the neck of it. The OT gave me chewie toys but they were all very female looking so i didn’t like to use them as i may have got teased!
- I put up my right shoulder when i get nervous – its weird cos i think it happens if i am trying to look cool and relaxed. my shoulder goes away up to near my ear. I don’t notice that i am doing it until mam or dad says “Fionn shoulder down”.This is a recent one i have only done it for a few years. Sometimes if i get reminded not to do it, i still do it.
- really early on i couldn’t make eye contact like most aspies have problem with. Mam and Lorna my primary school classroom assistant used to tell me to look at them and even though i was hard i get used to doing it. But still if i am talking to a stranger, or an important person i sometimes stretch my neck up too high. Mam says i am like a turtle and tells me to put it down

- in primary school i couldn’t sit still and was jigging, swinging on the chair and things like that. I knew it used to annoy people sitting near me. Now i have a comfy way of sitting – i sit on my let knee and my right knee goes up in the air. I can even do it on a lab stool. When i was going to my grammar school that was one thing they were worried about, but we showed them one day in the office the LS advisor and my new , assistant and my new form teacher, that i couldn’t really even have a proper conversation if i couldn’t sit in my comfy shape. Now none of the teachers mind at all.It is my most balanced position!
- one of my specialist interests was Doctor Who. There was one episode in it where “the Master” – another Time lord had a tapping sound that only he could hear. It kinda got in my head. I couldn’t stop doing it! on the desk, on the floor, with my pencil, with my nails, with my knuckles with my feet…it was driving the class mad and i didn’t even know i was doing it. My closest friend then Mattie was sitting beside me – he used to put his hand on mine to stop me, and Lorna my assistant would do the same thing.
- When i am bored, or sometimes when the world seems too quiet i sing.(sometimes i try to whistle but i am bad at that). I don’t realise i am singing until someone stares at me and i realise what i am doing. When mam is helping me with my homework and i start singing, she says her FAVOURITE catchphrase “If you are singing….you are not listening!”. No offence mum!
- i scribble. Scribbling isn’t a bad habit except i kinda do it during lessons when i should be concentrating.
- i play drums – its really good cos i love music and it is really good for kids with ADHD- cos they have to do so many things at once. BUT when a tune is in my head, it starts being drummed out on the floor. That’s what i was doing when i decided to do this blog. Mum calls it Tap-dancing - i still think it is pretty awesome.
- i interrupt a lot. I don’t mean to but i think what is in my head can’t wait.
- the thing i do that drives dad mad, is if i think something is really exciting, or hilarious, on the computer, or on the play station, i have to call him in to watch! i do understand why this is a bad habit cos i could be annoying others or boring them with things they aren’t into and it would not be good if i did this with friends.
- when i recite scenes from DVDs or episodes of TV shows it drives the family bats – all except my brother Caoilte – he is 10 and he usually helps me! But somebody else will shout “Fionn you are doing scenes” – and they tell me if i do another scene then i am not allowed to watch that show any more, That works for me!!
- i am incredibly untidy. I don’t mean to be but i really am. As soon as i come into the house its like a tornado hit. My shoes are off and everywhere, my blazer is off and somewhere, my tie is off somewhere else, often my shirt is off as well.as i like doing homework in my nude top!. Then the books. My books are everywhere. Mum and the school did subject colour coding which helps me bring in the right books, but i am still a messy worker.
- i never put stuff away in the right place. So my bedroom can be a bit of a kip. Mum and dad do tell me to clean it for independence, but it often has piles of clean laundry to put hanging up, bed to be made, books everywhere cos i love reading and socks everywhere…cos i take them off when i feel warm and throw them around my room.
But overall i am pretty ok. I am different. I know there are bits i have to work at, but everybody has. So i don’t mind too much
Fionn
yes fionn – stop calling me when you ‘think’ you have something interesting on youtube !!
Love you loads (and your brothers and sister) – and love your blog!
Nice post, you reminded me of myself at your age. Keep blogging, you are a good writer.
thanks for that
i will keep blogging
no need to worry
from Fionn
Fionn, as always this is amazing. Thanks for sharing. ))
love this post fionn. i gotta say its amazing how much us aspies can be alike. i too do many of the things you have listed. it drives many of the people around me like my mom crazy. i am not the best at cleaning my room, it overwhelms me so i go a long time in between cleaning it. i am always drumming my hands, makeing beats on different things such as my gut, a table whatever. or if i am sitting down i always have to have my back to a wall. i do so many of the things you listed that its kinda scary lol. you may be different fionn but you are different in a very good way.
thats really nice to hear.
thankyou
from Fionn
this one was hilarious to read – loved that you even wrote them out as a LIST! i think you covered just about every single one of your most annoying habits. except maybe about how it’s not just your own books and clothes that get strewn all over the house, and how your little book wormy self rummages through my books too and wrecks the order of my book case!
and on the topic of quotes, “i would like to extend to you an invitation to…” you know where!
the pants party? lol
thanks i agree with you that its not ALWAYS mine but usually and you are a bit of a freak about your bookcase anyhow!ha ha
from Fionn x
of course that’s the party i was talking about! brian told me to say it…
well, i guess you are right about the bookcase. you know what you are? “you’re so wise. you’re like a miniature buddha, all covered in hair”
i am not covered in hair. I haven’t hit that puberty stage yet!
haha
from Fionn x
lol it’s another anchorman quote! ron says it to baxter. hopefully you never become THAT covered in hair!!
I’m slowly working my way through this blog, and, Fionn, with this post you put a big smile on my face – many of this sounds just like my own son!!
One thing is, he loves to listen to the same story CDs over and over again and by now he knows so many of them by heart. And then all of a sudden he starts reciting them word by word. I am always a little unsure about how to react: Frankly, I’m not interested – if I wanted to listen to the stories, I’d play the CD. And I would feel it much more worthwhile if he told us about himself instead of quoting stories someone else has made up. But then again, if that’s what is important for him at the moment…?
How does the Hamill family handle that?
Fionn always did this.
We used to limit it…and repeatedly so…daily same message.
And we explained if that happened with other kids they would be bored and walk away?
We did 2 things.
We tried to direct his obsessions towards age appropriate bits – in case he couldn’t hold back in company at some stage.
And – we did the “fionn you’re doing scenes” – eventually cut down in time permitted but now associated with a NO more of that programme if you can’t stop!
Very very textbook!
And be patient!
Helen
(Sorry – rather busy, these days…)
What you write is interesting, Helen. But it does require a lot of discipline from the parents’ side, I always feel I lack that and therefore am just taking it on a case-to-case basis. But it’s a good idea to point out to him that other kids might not be too interested and might walk away.
Anyway, it feels so rude to say “stop it”, but I guess it’s not. One of the may things in teaching our kids appropriate social interaction… (After about 9 months of “training” we believe he is already making progress in getting on with his peers
)
And about patience – tell me about it… Learning about your own capacity for patience comes with the job (parenting), it’s part of the perks, I guess…
Enjoy your weekend!
it does Katie,
and i don’t mean to minimise that in any way.
Its a 24/7 job!!
thats why i think the parent is the one who has to be determined.
and it is VERY slow progress…especially when you have a family too!
H